Thursday, May 31, 2007

How to Control and Condition Women

How to Control and Condition Women
by Scott Patterson


When I was in college, I was a psychology major. While I never pursued a career in this career field, I've learned to use a lot of its basic principles in my business and personal life.

In fact, there is one technique I pulled from Psychology 101 which is great way to build attraction with women.

Let me explain...

If you've read David DeAngelo's ebook- Double Your Dating, then you know being in control of your relationships with women is a great way to build attraction. Without going into too much detail, women are STRONGLY attracted to guys who act in a confident manner and never show levels of neediness.

Now a way you can control women is use the 'operant conditioning' principle from Psychology 101. When you use this technique you give her attention in an unpredictable manner.

Why should you do this?

Well if you study psychology, then you know that you get the most amount of responses from people if you use a 'Variable Ratio' reward system.

For instance, if you immediately return her calls EVERY TIME, then she knows she has you trained like one of Pavlov's Dogs.

But...

If you call her back once in awhile, then she'll start to realize that she doesn't have control over you. Furthermore, giving her a spaced out reward will make you more attractive because you'll give off the impression that you're a busy guy with stuff to do.

While it might seem counterintuitive, you can build attraction by showing that a woman can't control you. So if you want to show that you're a higher status guy, you'll use psychological technique. Then once a woman knows she has to work hard for your attention, she'll be more inclined to start pursuing you.




About the Author
Scott Patterson can help YOU meet, attract & seduce ANY woman! In his free resource, Attraction Mastery, Scott provides over 50 TIPS you can use to get instant results with girls. To claim your free copy of this resource, visit his site now: http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women213.html

Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Online Dating - Have Fun, Be Smart, Be Safe or Be Sorry

Online Dating - Have Fun, Be Smart, Be Safe or Be Sorry
by Mickey E. D. Mixon



The Internet is still pretty safe overall, even for seniors, according to research of various Internet safety sites like www.WiredSafety.org who estimated a 90 - 97 percent "terrific" Internet. People are chatting with one another, making cyber-dates. However, there are some general rules of Internet etiquette or "netiquette" and some precautions to take for possible dangers lurking there. Here are some pointers compiled from several websites experienced in cyber-dating techniques.

SAFETY TIPS

1. Do Not Give Out Personal Information - Whether it's via email, online chat rooms, message boards, in your personal ad, etc., do not disclose your personal information like your complete name, address, telephone number, work place, etc. Use a third party email address instead of one with your domain or work domain, that is easily traceable. For example, instead of using joe@seniortimes.com , set up an email account like joe@yahoo.com or joe@hotmail.com (search "free email accounts" for places like this). Preferred dating sites offer email forwarding so that members do not see private information.

2. Do Not Lie - Be up front about your age and appearance. Better to not be caught in lies later on or lead someone on falsely.

3. Be Tactful and Leary - Do not believe everything you read in posts, in emails or in general, online. You could be chatting with a child or someone faking their sexual orientation. The odds are that you will probably encounter someone a tad "undesirable" from time to time, so try to use appropriate replies, using tact, or ignore the encounter, if it suits the situation.

4. Use Caution in Sharing Images - Whenever you think about sharing a digital photo online, keep in mind that it may be possible for thousands to see it on the Internet, not just one person. Plus your photo can be copied, altered with different software out there today and posted elsewhere. If you do use your image, send one that shows you with a warm smile, not a frown.

5. Ask if Unsure - Go slow like the tortoise in the race with the hare and ask questions if you are unsure how to proceed in your contact and communications. Contact the site owner or webmaster (check for contact info when you register), ask trusted friends for helpful resources, check with local authorities. Remember that old adage, "Better safe than sorry!"

6. Be careful if you decide to meet for the first date. Remember there is safety in numbers, so meet in a public place with other friends around.

7. Keep copies of communications in a file so that you can show friends or the law in case your meeting or continued contact takes a bad turn. And do report any problems and cooperate with authorities. They can get information from your computer and communications to aid in tracking down culprits in some cases. Don't try to take matters into your own hands and stalk the culprit yourself. Be safe.

8. Let men instigate online and offline relationships. Men still like to pursue. Online studies show that this has proven safer, too, especially with Internet dating. Men should make the first email move. And women should NOT reply to men's ads; let the men pursue. (Sorry guys!)

9. So that you don't appear anxious or desperate or both, generally wait for a day or 24-hour period before replying. And forget about replying on weekend and holidays, at least at first, and being available via instant messaging. This is especially important for women (double standards are still around and even exist in the Internet dating scene) - you want to "appear" socially active, confident - blah, blah, blah, even if you are just home washing your hair.

10. Don't date someone who is already married to someone else - even if that person says he or she is getting a divorce. Let the divorce happen first. Otherwise things could get ugly. And you may even have to face the spouse / ex-spouse and children down the road. So think of others, too, when even considering someone who is not single.

11. If after several emails or letters you decide to talk on the phone, keep the first call short, around 10 minutes. Plan to have to "rush" off. Your goal is to hear the person's voice and talk a short while only, not seeming over anxious.

12. Some gents do complain that the ladies do not reply to their emails. So ladies, reply! At least say, "No, thank you."

13. Check their background. Most any company can run a name through a criminal database. But wouldn't you have more confidence in the background check if it was done by a Licensed Private Investigator? PI's are trained to check for the obvious, but to also look for the concealed evidence that often reveals the true nature of an individual. Misspelled names, altered dates of birth, incorrect social security numbers, maiden and/or alias names are just a few of the areas that PI's regularly check, but most background check companies never even consider.

For less than the price of hamburgers and a movie, you can have piece of mind. Choose from a basic criminal check to a complete comprehensive background report. Don't take chances.

NETIQUETTE

Here are some general guidelines for your online communications.

* Use respectful tones and wording. Swear words and hurtful remarks are not good for anyone. If someone presses you, for example, to share confidential information that you shouldn't, just say, "No" and tell the site monitors / webmaster of the forum, chat room or online dating site, if necessary.

* Look for dating and other resource websites that list street addresses instead of post office boxes or nothing at all. Ask friends for referrals.

* Try to avoid stretching the truth about your accomplishments, job title, etc. Then if a relationship develops, things will run much smoother.

* Try to avoid many 1-word replies and 1-sentence communications. Take some time to develop your thoughts and share in your paragraphs. In short, be a friend.

* Using all capital letters mean "SHOUTING" and is difficult to read at any length.

Take care, be smart, be safe and have fun with your cyber-dating!

Let American Investigation Brokers LLC, Online Dating help you have a safe online dating experience.


About the Author
Mickey E. D. Mixon Private Investigator Mickey@AIB-Inc.com American Investigation Brokers LLC http://www.AIB-Inc.com TX License #A13506 Member - National Association of Security Agencies, Inc. (NASA)

Friday, May 25, 2007

Christian Dating Offline, Online

Christian Dating Offline, Online
by Dave Pipitone


A popular way for Christian single men and women to connect with each other is through Christian dating. Christian adults meet each other and learn if a a life together as husband and wife is possible. There can be many different roads to developing a lifelong friendship, discovering a soul mate, or forming a relationship for marriage. If you are considering dating other Christians for these goals, consider these three steps.

First, identify what you want in a prospective partner. Think about what traits that person would have that meet your interests and desires. Conduct a personal inventory of the type of personality and temperament that works best with yours. Do you want someone who is funny and spontaneous? Is service a big part of your optimal relationship?

Besides what you are looking for, make sure you know what you want to give in a relationship. Remember, a successful Christian dating relationship is based on a loving friendship with another person. Have the mindset to "connect with respect." God is present as "the third strand" in every relationship, especially dating, engagement and marriage. There are two sets of three strands in every relationship. The first set is two people and God. The second set is the virtues faith, hope and love. If you focus on these ideas, you will experience more success when you look for that special someone you want to marry and raise a family with.

Second, find out how you can discover and connect with a special person you desire to treasure and honor. Eligible single Christians are everywhere. Use traditional methods to engage a boy friend or girl friend like joining a Christian singles group, volunteer or participate in a church mission program, network through family and friends, or visit one or more internet Christian dating services.

Consider this 2006 survey on online dating conducted by the Pew Internet and American Life Commission. Thirty one percent of American men and women know someone who used a dating website. About 30 million people know another person who got married or has a long-term relationship with someone found online.

Membership at dating websites grow every hour. The top Christian dating websites help you find your partner in the Lord. The Pew survey shows that three out of four singles who use the internet to look for a romantic partner did these things. Visited and used dating websites. Searched for information about potential partners. Flirted by email or instant messaging. Checked out the local singles scene.

Online Christian dating services are easy because you can look through a database any hour of day or night right from your own home. These services have a very large pool of potential soul mate prospects with the same values and interests that you are. You can type in search criteria for location, faith, likes and dislikes, and find new friends quickly and easily.

Free memberships of online Christian dating services are hard to find. Many of the professional services may cost between $100 and $250 a year, depending the quality and longevity of the site.

Online dating can be challenging because of the anonymous connection with an unknown person. You don't meet someone face-to-face, so there can be dishonesty about marriage status, income, education and other personal data. The Pew survey showed that seven million adults dated people they met online and nearly three million (17%) formed long-term relationships.

Third, connect with respect. A basic dating guideline for Christian single - whether at a church picnic or through a dating website - is to develop a loving Christian dating relationship that honors the other person. If you treat your date with kindness and respect, you strengthen those virtues within you. That habit comes back to you. God will lead you to the right person at the right time. Friendship comes first and then you grow from there.

Develop a strong Christian friendship. Use online or traditional ways of dating. Both approaches are valuable resources as you seek to discover God's plan for a marriage partner.


About the Author
Dave Pipitone is a professional communicator, spiritual entrepreneur, dedicated husband and father. For more information on Christian friendships to help build positive thoughts and beliefs about being connected to God and others, visit My3Strands.com

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Does Age Matter?

Does Age Matter?
by Debbie Appel, www.SavvyMiss.com


He's tall, dark and handsome, flirts shamelessly and has a Ph.D. to boot. The candle lit dinner is the most romantic first date you have ever had, and the conversation, though tongue in cheek, is fascinating and intelligent. "How old do you think I am?" he finally asks. You know his subtle silver streaks are more George Clooney than Taylor Hicks but on the inside you're hoping he's 35. Well, 35 he is not. Let's face it dear, your date could have been your mother's high school sweetheart.

Can you make a relationship work despite a wide age gap? Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones enjoy a successful May-December marriage, and as for dating that younger guy -- look no further than Justin and Cameron. But, celebrities aside, is age just a number when it comes to dating? And what are the pros and cons of a significantly younger or older partner?

PRO: The younger guy just reached his sexual peak.
With this guy, time in the bedroom is bound to be an adventure. Kathy, 35, who dated a man 12 years younger says, "He had stamina for days and a lack of inhibition with a "no harm, no foul, try anything" attitude. It was fantastic!"

PRO: The older guy has practice in the bedroom.
Your mature man is more likely to know exactly what he wants, both in and out of the bedroom, and has hopefully mastered the art of giving you multiple Os. Jessica, 27, who dated a guy 11 years her senior, says, "There was no awkwardness, no fumbling -- everything seemed really easy from the beginning. And it was always good!"

CON: The young guy never sleeps.
If your boyfriend is new to the working world, he may not understand why partying 'til all hours no longer fits into your lifestyle. Amy, 35, says, "I dated this younger guy and after a while, his party-all-the-time attitude got annoying. He'd call me in the middle of the night and got mad when I didn't feel like chatting at 2 a.m.!"

CON: The older guy doesn't know Buffy from Britney.
It's not that he doesn't enjoy clubbing with you, it's just that bumping and grinding doesn't really become him anymore. (And you should be grateful for that). Lucinda, 29, who dated a guy 13 years her senior, realized how different their pop culture worlds were when she brought him home to meet her parents. The weirdest part of their relationship? "He bonded WAAY too well with my dad over pop culture from the sixties."

PRO: Younger men carry less baggage.
He hasn't been hurt, had his heart broken or been mistreated by women, so he's not yet jaded. Barbara, a woman in her 50s, agrees. "[Younger men] are sweeter and kinder -- plus, they're less selfish in bed!"

PRO: The older guy knows how to treat a lady.
This guy is done driving his parents' old Honda, and he's not sharing an apartment with three guys either. By now, he's probably created a stable world filled with all the things he loves, and he's ready to share them with you. Jennifer, 32, who married a man 14 years her senior says, "Dating an older man means dating someone your age -- with better toys!"

CON: The young guy ain't looking for a wife.
If settling down and getting hitched is what you're looking for, just remember that those thoughts probably haven't even entered his mind. In fact, he's probably still trying to figure out who he is and where he's going. And sister -- if you're already there, it's time to move on.

CON: The older guy probably fears commitment.
If he's still single after all these years, there must be a reason. Yes, he may not have found "the right one" yet, but seriously -- why is he still single? Commitment-phobic? Emotionally stunted? You might want to check out his collection of baggage before you travel any further on this journey with him.

Of course, when it comes down to it, age isn't just a number. It can also be the secret to your success. "Sometimes it can be an asset, as it was for us," says Lucinda. "If he'd been my age it never would have worked; he'd have been a total spaz, emotionally and personality-wise. I wouldn't have been able to keep up with him in the sack. Knock a few years on there, and everything worked just fine."


About the Author
This article was originally published on http://www.savvymiss.com, a free website community for women. SavvyMiss.com features articles, message boards, blogs and shopping.