Chinese Dating Sites

Chinese Dating Sites by Barry Ohman



To find an exclusive Chinese Dating Site on the internet is almost impossible to find; either you find an online dating site that links you to different dating sites or they give a list of dating site links on a links page. That is why you use ChinesLoveLinks.com if you are planning to find an online dating site strictly for Chinese men and women as well as those that admirer them.


At ChineseLoveLinks you will find that they are the number one Chinese Dating Site on the internet for those of you looking for that are looking for that special Chinese woman. What I like about ChineseLoveLinks is that you may access their online dating site in English, Simplified Chinese as well as Traditional Chinese.


This is really a great online dating site as well as they have a lot of information to help you with your online dating endeavors. Probably the most important of any online dating site that everyone should read is their Terms of Use. So many people don't realize that the Terms of Use are the rules that you agree to abide by when using their online dating site.

With ChineseLoveLinks you will find as any other dating site that their basic membership is free. At ChineseLoveLinks there is a difference for their membership though, the men have to pay if they want to contact the female members though you will find that quite few of the Chinese ladies have paid memberships as well.


What I really enjoyed when checking through their online dating site is that they feature Success Stories of those men who have found their special Chinese lady while using the ChineseLoveLinks dating site. That brings joy to my heart as I understand that you may find that special Chinese lady that you are looking for when you use ChineseLoveLinks.


Actually you will also find that they have a basic 3 Step Free Membership Registration at ChineseLoveLinks which starts with you having to provide a valid e-mail address. If you can't supply a valid e-mail address you will not be able to continue with your registration until you provide one to them.


Remember the most important thing when you create your personal profile is that you should be honest with the information you supply. As well you should create a personal profile that will catch the attention of other members and post photos of yourself that are current as not to misrepresent yourself.


If everything goes right for you when using the ChineseLoveLinks , you may be the next one who is posting their Success Story after you find that special Chinese lady that you were looking for.


About the Author
My name is Barry Ohman and my wife and I have started our first online dating website. As we met on the internet, we thought we would start our own online dating website which is called http://www.online-dating-advisors.com.

Christian Dating Service Use Rising

Christian Dating Service Use Rising by David Butler
Christian dating services are popping up all over the internet for the simple reason that each year, the percentage of singles using these sites keeps increasing. What's the reason for the rise in use of Christian dating services? The answer is really simple: Many Christian singles are meeting their dating matches online.
There are many benefits of using Christian dating services. Here are just a few:
Christian Dating Service Use Give You More Choices
Don't laugh, but one person I know compares going to a Christian dating site to taking a trip to Haagen-Daz or Baskin Robbins: You have your choice of almost any flavour you wish. Yummy!
Seriously, though, due to the large number of single women and men using Christian dating services, a single Christian has a much larger number of potential dates and mates from which to make a choice.
A Christian Dating Service Allows Targeted Searches
Somewhat related to the ice cream analogy (by the way, Mint-Chocolate-Chip is my favourite; oh wait, or is it Chocolate-Chip-Mint?), the large search databases of some dating online sites like Christian Mingle, now Relationships.com allows Christians dating online to "put in their order" using such variables as age, denomination, vocation, race, appearance and the local area of where one wants to find potential soulmates. Best of all, your potential dating match is also looking for the same thing.
Joining a Christian Dating Service Saves Time
A Christian dating service can save time for busy singles (like Christian single parents, etc) who don't have the time or energy to find a date in more traditional ways. Single Christians who turn to a Christian dating service have the convenience of meeting someone out of the comfort of their own homes, 24/7. And let's be real, with the average size of the typical evangelical church hovering at around 90 souls, the pickin's are generally slim at best. And how much time have you spent primping yourself to go out to singles activities only to be disappointed at the close of the evening?
A Christian Dating Service Develops Communication Skills in Daters
Speaking with other single people on a Christian dating service helps you hone your conversational skills. It's also an excellent chance to express true thoughts via Christian chatrooms, email and instant messaging, without feeling awkward as one could in person. By the time the Christian dating site couple finally does meet, they will be much more comfortable with each other, having laid down a strong emotional foundation.
Recently, I read some of the romantic letters President John Adams wrote his wife, Abigail. when they were separated by 100s of miles. In those days there were no telephones, and pony-delivered mail took days to get to its destination. But oh, the beauty, passion and depth of those letters! Okay, we're not in Colonial America, and I may be a romantic idealist, but communicating through an online Christian dating site can help singles experience a little of this magic.
Christian Dating Online Saves You Money
If you're cheap like me, you're gonna love this! Almost every Christian dating site on the web offers free trial memberships to to get a taste for what each offers. However, for full membership services most Christian dating site hubs charge between $15 and $30 US dollars per month.
That might seem like a lot of money until you figure how much time and money you may spend traveling to singles activities, paying entrance fees, buying food, and so forth. Overall, if you are using a good Christian dating service, it is much more economical in the long run than traditional ways of finding a date.
About the Author
David Butler, has been employed as a Family Court Mediator and Parent Education Teacher. He is also a Christian minister to singles, and has a website, Christian Dating Service Plus, specifically for the personal needs of this group of people.

Single & Dating in 2007? This New Audio Book is a Must-Listen

Single & Dating in 2007? This New Audio Book is a Must-Listen.
by Alex Mugume

Here is the frank truth: Most people choose a spouse basing on a 50/50 guess, with a 50/50 plan to divorce if their choice of spouse is a wrong one. This blind luck strategy has caused the current high divorce rate, destroyed many families, ruined many people's quality of life, and costs our nation over $20 billion per year.
Now here is the good news: Chicago's Family Love Teacher is now sharing the missing premarital knowledge, and all the answers you've always wanted to know to make divorce and domestic violence plagues of the past! These breakthrough secrets are all revealed on a new audio book, with free downloadable tracks at, http://www.skillfuldating.com
Chicago's Family Love Teacher is concerned that in this information age, many singles today still do not know how to unlock these consequential secrets in dating. He is now sacrificing time every week to help singles learn how to build a successful and lasting love relationship. He also teaches them how to avoid repeating these common and painful marital mistakes. He is inviting every Single man or woman to take the plunge, and learn this breakthrough relationship knowledge now:-
1. Existence of a clear path that leads to a successful love relationship. 2. How to use a new decision-making tool, "10 Step-Smart Lover's Model", to help you to foresee the future of your love relationship in the earliest stages of dating. This time-saving step-by-step tool gives you instant feedback, and helps you to prevent a mismatch with an impostor who is going to pretend, divorce, and ruin your quality of life in the future. This tool puts you in total control. You do not have to rely on 50/50 guesses or your memory alone in making this important lifetime decision. 3. How to use the, "Smart Lover's Exit Strategy Flow Chart", as a powerful tool that empowers Singles to foresee and manage the risks and uncertainties in choosing a spouse. This tool helps you to skillfully avoid the pitfalls and painful mistakes in relationship building. 4. Learn how marriage is all predictable. You'll learn masterpiece techniques from a 4-year study of over 40,000 years of other real people's learned lessons. This mind-opening wisdom is the missing knowledge you will use your whole life long. It is the indispensable dating knowledge, the timeless principles, and life's instructions you cannot get along without, if your goal is to build a lasting and joyful family. It is all recorded on this "can't-miss" audio book titled, "How to Choose Your True Lifetime Lover".
It is now easier than ever before. The answers are in print and on audio, to empower the smart people who are passionate about making winning decisions that last the test of time. The Family Love Teacher is urging young adults not to wait to learn this life-shaping knowledge the hard way. He believes that now is the best time to focus on building joyful families, and more joyful communities. For a small investment of only $15, this educational audio book can be downloaded from, http://www.skillfuldating.com/. No single person should miss out on this superior and infinitely useful skill. There is simply no substitute guide if you are seriously interested in taking the guesswork out of today's dating world.
Alex Mugume is a Family Love Teacher and author of the, "10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage". He teaches this new decision-making skill, and shares over 40,000 years of other people's best learned lessons at, http://blog.bestlovingskills.com/. Visit for more info.
About the Author
Alex Mugume is a Family Love Teacher and author of the, "10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage". He teaches this new decision-making skill, and shares over 40,000 years of other people's best learned lessons at, http://blog.bestlovingskills.com/. Visit for more info.

Dating Tips: The First Impression Matters

Dating Tips: The First Impression Matters
Ever had a love at first sight encounter? Totally captured by her beauty the first time you laid your eyes on her? Having sleepless nights thinking about her? That first impression she left with you was sure astonishing wasn't it?
The first impression you give plays a very important part in the blooming of a love relationship. It determines the ever possibility of a development of the relationship. Would you fall in love with someone whom you don't have any good impression at all? The chances are, if you have a bad impression of someone, it's very likely that the more you see him the more you will dislike him. It's very hard to change one's thinking once it is set in his mind. It will need a lot of time and regular communication between both to break down that wall. So even if you can't impress that special someone the very first time, make sure you will not displease him or her. You can still work on your chances at a later time.
How can you impress someone? Well, you may be the kindest soul, so helpful; caring, fun loving and easy going whom all your friends enjoy your presence. But does that someone know? No, if there are no chances of both of you going out together, going out on a date, there's no way he or she will ever get to know you more. You have got to make that someone notice you, make your presence be known. You got to first impress him or her!
Very naturally, humans tend to make judgment of another just by their very first acquaintance with the person. Decisions were made almost at that very moment of your job interview? Your physical appearance, the way you talk, all your little behaviors you show, will decide what kind of a person you are to them and this impression is going to be set in their mind unless some thing or someone changes it.
So what can you do? What should you take note of? First of all, your appearance of course. Your physical appearance is the very the first thing that catches a person's eyes. Put on your very best look! But do however dress appropriately. If you are going for a ball, you will not go in your jeans and tee and if you are going for a barbeque, for heaven's sake, please don't go in your tuxedo or suits. Other than your physical appearance, you have to also be careful with all your little actions, the way you speak, the way you eat, the way you look at others?
Look for chance to strike a conversation with that someone. If not a personal one, a little group conversation will be good. Try to participate in the conversation, getting his or her attention. Look into the eyes, drop him or her a nice warm smile. Let that someone know that his or her presence is felt, being felt by you. A smile with the right eye contact at the right timing can sometimes works wonder than to words. But please, keep the conversations entertaining. If you are bad with jokes, don't try it! Don't risk making yourself a clown.
For guys, show your gentlemanliness, hold the door for her, offer seat to her; offer her a ride home? But remember, be natural, take things slowly, don't overdo it and scare her off the very first time.
For girls? Well, you always got a little more privilege. Just be sure not to make yourself look unfriendly, Smile? Look him in the eyes and drop him a nice little sweet smile of yours. Do you know that your smile is enough to melt a man's heart?
Well all these little things count, your little efforts will pay off? Nonetheless, it's always good to leave people with a good impression of yourself rather than a bad one, isn't it?
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Rick Valens Staff Writer http://www.loveletterbox.com Love Relationship Discussion Forum
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Is it Lust or Love -- How to Tell the Difference

Is it Lust or Love -- How to Tell the Difference
Far too many people, both men and women alike, confuse lust for love. Physical attraction alone will not withstand the test of time in relationships. Physical attraction is an important factor but must never be the only factor you rely upon when choosing a mate. Many make the mistake of confusing lust and love and end up broken-hearted when the relationship doesn't last.
Perhaps you're wildly attracted to someone and thoughts of that person dominate your mind a good portion of the day and night. Perhaps you can't wait until the next time the two of you will be together again. When you are together you can't keep your hands off one another and when you're apart, you fantasize about the next time you can see one another. True love and lust are easily confused because they are so much alike.
As a rule of thumb, if you share few other interests and have nothing in common other than an overwhelming physical desire for one another...it may be lust. If you have nothing of real value to say to one another and have difficulty relating to one another outside the sexual arena...it may be lust. If you don't particularly enjoy one another's company unless you're having sex...it may be lust.
On the other hand, if your relationship is based on factors other than physical attraction and sex is not necessarily the number one priority...it may be love. Most long-term relationships are built on a strong friendship which turns into love over time. Having sex is not the driving force behind the relationship, but is a nice sideline to it.
There really is such a thing as "love at first sight". It happens to many people and the relationship may last for the rest of their lives. A budding relationship based on lust feels much the same as one which is truly "love at first sight". So how do you tell the difference?
Ask yourself the following questions. Read each question carefully and really think about it before answering. When answering, try to be as truthful as possible. If you can honestly and sincerely answer "yes" to all or nearly all of the questions, it may be safe to assume what you feel for the other person is actually love and not merely lust.
Keep in mind, these questions are quite general and are in no way a total and complete checklist.
1. Do you share similar ethics, values, and morals?
2. Do you find it easy to talk to one another and can you talk freely about almost anything?
3. Do you enjoy the time you spend with one another, regardless of the activity?
4. Do you enjoy even the most mundane activities when you are together, simply because you ARE together?
5. Do you have a genuine concern for the happiness, safety, and well-being of the other person?
6. Are you able to work out any differences you may have with this person to the satisfaction of both of you?
7. When disagreements arise, are you able to discuss them openly and frankly without losing your temper?
8. Do you find yourself longing for this person's presence in your life in terms other than a sexual relationship? In other words, do you feel a need simply to be with that person and spend time with them even without having sex?
9. Can you laugh together and at one another, share jokes, and generally have fun together?
10. Does spending time with this person make you feel good about yourself?
11. Does this person give you a heightened sense of self-confidence and vitality?
12. Can you look at this person even when they are at their worst in their physical appearance (such as when they are sick) and not feel repulsed?
13. Do you share a strong mutual respect for one another?
14. Are you willing and able to share both good times and bad with this person and work through life's ups and downs together as a team?
There is a very fine line between lust and love because the two of them are closely related. Being able to tell the difference can save you from wasting your time pursuing an unhealthy relationship which is doomed to eventual failure.
If your long-term goal is to seek out a partner with whom you can build a solid, lifetime commitment, knowing the difference between lust and love is an essential and vital skill you'll want to master. Learning to accept a relationship for what it really is can mean the difference between a broken heart and a happy, fulfilling, lifetime of bliss with your partner.
Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved
Deborah Willis is the author of ATTRACT WOMEN -- The Average Man's Guide to Attracting, Dating, Loving, and Maintaining Relationships with Women. For more down-to-earth advice for men visit ATTRACT WOMEN
This article may be freely reprinted as long as the article resource is left intact and there is a live link to the author's web site.

10 Fast Ways to Re-Igniting Romance

10 Fast Ways to Re-Igniting Romance
Research shows that people who put each other down and are hostile to each other are more likely to have serious problems .
We tend to feel vulnerable our sence of protection has been broken, our love has diminished ..
Great relationships don't happen they are created ..
We all have a comfort level and it's usually measured by how we live and what are interests are. We sometimes tend to get comfortable Our comfort level gives us a sence of protection. We tend to lose ourselves and interet on what really matters ..(sharing our love!) We are settling We dont want to try new things, if i ain't broke why fix it , that is what we believe when we are at that comfort zone . We tend to settle for the "status qou" that would be our existing condition. For the feeling of being afraid of stepping out ...We cant understand why we are being so reserved with our loved ones, our we that insecure ?
Our Love has diminished ....
What if ?
Stepping out of the comfort zone you could have a positive effect in your intimate love romantic passioante relationship with your partners. That would be what we all want and desire Yes you can have it all !! It helps us grow and we learn from these intimate experiences. We discover new ways to share love and enjoy happiness together which is the best thing in the world !
Start right now ! Enhance romance ...
Follow a few easy steps and soon you will see things in a new light .. ***Steps to Re-igniting the flames of LOVE ****
1. Be spontaneous with your partner it is a way to help your relationship flourish. Being spontaneous with your partner can enrich and strenghten your intimate moments ...try something that you have been wanting to do..
2. Talk, listen and laugh together become best freinds ..You will soon start creating a bond of intimacy .. Be sincere open and honest ..Communicate about love, sex, family and the relationship..
3. Send Love Notes , Post them everywhere , tell them how gorgeous, handsome,Beautiful, sexy , how much you love them, be creative be specific... 4. Compliment each other lovingly in public and in privacy, show affection for each other ...
5. Show them how much your really care by being responsive,responsible, caring and loving .. Do the little things that say i love you and care for you ..
6 . Respect each other whole heartedly, partners who treat each other with kind and respect know that it is essential for having a deep connections and loving relationship..
7. Be a good partner regularly get them something you know they will like and enjoy ..
8. Don't let negative or annoying comments bother you , discuss the negativity when you are both calm.
9. Take responsibility for your own growth, appearance and health..
10. Communicating without fear is absoulutely essential to building the deepest kind of freindship and intimate partner .. Love is a Beautiful thing ! Let's share it ..
Marriage is not 50/50 it is 100/100
Please share this with your partner ..

Best wishes

Let's stay connected .. articles and resources to help you build a more romantic environment ... .
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How to Tell if a Single Woman is Really Interested in You

How to Tell if a Single Woman is Really Interested in You
It's very important to learn how a single woman acts, speaks, and uses body language around you that indicates that she is romantically or sexually interested in you. When you learn these signs, you can use this to your advantage. If a woman is truly interested in you, this really increases your chances of scoring with her.
Use these guidelines to tell if a single woman is truly interested and attracted to you:
1. Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing, with a relaxed face.
2. She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated (this could be mistaken for being high on drugs).
3. Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her
lips or touching of her front teeth.
4. While talking to you she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass up and down with her thumb and index finger.
5. If she is wearing clothes that shows her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.
6. She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
7. Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.
8. She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
9. She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way.
10. She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.
11. She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
12. She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
13. She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
14. Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.
15. She rubs her wrists up and down.
16. She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
17. She laughs in unison with you.
18. She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.
19. Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
20. She mirrors your body language and body positions.
21. Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.
22. While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.
23. In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.
24. While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
25. She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.
I know this is a lot of signs to look for, but this will be to your advantage to know if she's interested in you. If she's not truly interested in you, you will just be wasting your time on her. Memorize these positive signs to determine if she's got the "hots" for you and take advantage of the situation accordingly with your charm and seduction techniques.
This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with women, please visit his website at: http://www.getgirls.com - This article is copyright (c) 2005 by Don Diebel and may be reprinted in it's entirety as long as his website, byline, and copyright statement is included.

Safe Cyber Dating

Safe Cyber Dating
Cyber dating is one of the most popular dating venues these days. No longer is it necessary to go to the bar down the street to find a date. No longer is it necessary to romance someone through flowers and candy on a date. Dating has become a cyber event. Not only can you meet people through cyber dating but you can actually court them through cyber dating as well. But, what you need to remember is that cyber dating needs to be kept safe.
Safe cyber dating doesn't mean no cyber dating. Instead, you should take precautions like any other dating situation. Things that are personal to you, like finances and business relationships should be kept out of the cyber dating world. Instead, learn about each other lives. Safe cyber dating is important because of many reasons, but the most important reason is for your own protection. Because cyber dating is so easy to get into, there are many people who use cyber dating as a means to lure people into their scams or bad situations. Cyber dating is a smoke screen, unfortunately, to many people. And, even if the person you are dating in cyber space is on the up and up, that does not mean that your date hasn't lied even just a little about him or herself either. Cyber dating is also a good way to hide. In order to learn more about how to be safe, check out http://www.getdatingtips.com.
So how can you be safe in cyber dating? Don't trust individuals with your personal information. Don't provide cyber dating partners with information regarding your home address or financial information. Meet your cyber dating partner in an open area where other people are close by for safeties sake. Take your time getting to know your cyber dating friend. Cyber dating, even after all of this is said and done, is still a great way to meet people.
S A Baker is staff writer at http://www.getdatingtips.com

A Nice Guys Guide to Dating Success

A Nice Guys Guide to Dating Success
Has it ever happened to you? Have you ever had the experience of liking a woman, being a perfect gentleman, and treating her like a queen, only to have her reject you in favor of someone else (possibly very handsome) who doesn't treat her right, or doesn't seem to care about her much at all? These kinds of men have been called "bad boys," "charm boys," or "players." When you are interested in women, do they tend to see you as a friend or "brother" rather than a romantic interest? Do women tell you you're "too nice"? If so, you are not alone. This article will give you, the nice guy, some tips on how to use charm-boy traits to your advantage, while retaining your nice-guy values.
Let's brainstorm for a minute. What makes charm boys or players attractive? They are fun, spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, and act as if they don't care what others think of them (also known as confidence). They follow their own rules and don't let others (including their dates) walk all over them. And they often look good.
So what can you do? You don't have to engage in risk-taking behaviors in order to succeed with women. Suggest some "safe" ideas on the spur of the moment; for example, "Let's go get some sushi/ice cream/a Margarita," or, "Let's go for a drive and see where we end up." If this is not the usual "you," you may enjoy your new-found spontaneity. You can be mysterious/unpredictable without violating your principles. Don't call her the day after getting her phone number or the day after a date. Give her time to wonder whether you'll call; keep her guessing. People often want what isn't easy to get, and women like a little challenge.
You're the man. Many women are looking for men who are confident and decisive, who can be relied on to get things done. On a date, take command but don't be pushy. Always have a Plan A and a Plan B, so you don't miss the concert just in case the restaurant loses your reservation and there's a 1-1/2-hour wait. But always be flexible, in case your date hates Chinese food, for example, or she just told you her favorite musical group is in town, tonight only. Low-cost dates conducive to getting to know each other include the zoo, a museum, or miniature golf. In addition to saving you money, these low-cost dates also minimize the feeling that you have to "spoil" her or "buy" her affection with an extravagant wining-and-dining evening. And if she likes you, she won't mind a "cheap" date; she just wants to be with you.
Keep it light and upbeat. Don't be needy or act nervous. You might be a bit anxious while on a date, but she doesn't need to know that. Keep things light and humorous, and pay attention to her. That in itself will help you take the focus off you and help you feel more confident. And be a gentleman (you're already good at this). For example, always offer to pick up the tab unless she insists on paying, open doors for her, etc. But don't overdo the gifts, lest you appear desperate.
Let her talk. This is where nice guys have an advantage. Most women like to communicate verbally and welcome the chance to be heard. (But make sure you listen; don't just let your mind wander.) She will be impressed if you remember details about things that are important to her, such as her pet's name or her favorite book. If you met her online, review her profile for questions you can ask her about her interests.
Neatness counts. Take another hint from the charm boys. You don't have to be a Brad Pitt look-alike, but make the most of what you have. Review your grooming, clothes, and accessories with an objective eye. If you want feedback, ask a friend--possibly a female friend--for honest input. Or tune into one of the new TV shows which focus on wardrobe/grooming tips for men.
Have a life (and a backbone). Just because you are dating a woman doesn't mean you drop everything else (including your own friends, hobbies, and interests). After all, relationships can come and go. Keep being yourself. You are not always at her beck and call. When you really don't want to do something (for example, if she wants you to cancel your ballgame or night out with your friends to go shoe shopping with her), it's okay to decline. Telling her no may be difficult for nice guys, but if she's worth keeping, she will respect you for this and value her time with you more. To soften the blow, you might offer her an alternative get-together. For example, "Sorry I can't make it on Saturday. How about I take you to that new play you've been wanting to see on Sunday instead?"
How does she rate? Remember: You have the right to evaluate her, not just the other way around. Does she deserve a second date? Is she relationship material (if that's what you're looking for)? Just because she's attractive/smart/classy doesn't necessarily mean she's right for you. Does she treat you well? Is she kind? Does she have decent self-esteem? Is she giving? If you're looking for a long-term relationship, can you see yourself still with her in 20 years, when some of the supermodel looks may have begun to fade?
The good news for nice guys is that as women get older, perhaps having survived a bad-boy heartbreak or two, they are more likely to appreciate nice guys. Make a list of your good points, the qualities you have to offer. Keep at it. And start believing that you are a catch (or at least act like it)!
For more information, visit the author's website http://www.therapy-conscious.com
Copyright 2004, Ann L. Palik
Ann L. Palik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles, California, specializing in helping single people create healthy relationships.

Finding a Safe Dating Site

Finding a Safe Dating Site
Seems like everywhere we surf on the Internet nowadays we run across this little advertisement: 'Free online personals'. They are everywhere, they are dating sites, and more are opening up shop every day.
Welcome to the newest internet gold rush.More and more people are signing up to these new and "free" dating sites. What they are really getting is a place on the web where they can post their profile and let strangers contact them. As more and more dating sites pile up on the web, more people are ending up with very distasteful experiences because of this.Why? 99% of today's (and tomorrow's) dating sites do not screen their members at all. This means there are sex offenders, predators, scam artistsmixed in with genuine people who are looking to find a match.Dating services need to be very discretionary and much safer, until that time comes here are some important things to consider when thinking about joining a dating site.
1). Examine the site's physical properties. Is it poorly constructed with missing graphics or jagged fonts, mis-aligned sections? If so, this indicates a lack of attention to detail in the construction and layout of the site. It may have been pre purchased and the owner does not have the skill to alter it correctly. Why would you care? Well, a site in a state like this gives a clue that the back end program probably is also in a state of disarray or disregard. If the webmaster cannot construct the face of the site, then it is likely they cannot also construct important safety features behind the site. A hacker then could easily penetrate it and get your personal information including your photo. If you eventually pay this site, your credit information could be stolen as well! A nicely designed site means careful construction and a better chance of good quality code running the site in the background.
2). Look at some sample profiles on the site before you sign up by running a quick search. Do the profiles look a little bogus? A lot of them are. Many sites (especially new ones that have just started up) pad their membership database with photos of models or random (usually good-looking people) to attract new members. Do the profiles have a lot of jibberish characters or nonsensical phrases in the descriptions? That means the dating site you are at does NOT screen the people who sign up. This welcomes people with ill-intent. You should get out of there immediately and go to one that does.
3). Does the site have a privacy link? Look at the bottom of the site's main page. If they have a privacy link, click it and examine. Make sure they specifically state that they do NOT sell your information to anyone. This is an invitation to a spam and junk-mail nightmare. Also look for some sort of a web site rules page or a terms of use page. Check to see if they screen their profiles or somehow >disallow racial, hate or overly sexual material. If they don't state this than, anything goes for this site, another reason to leave.
4). Does the site have a links page? If so click and examine. See who they are affiliated with. Usually, there will be graphical banners or icons next to the names of their associations. Are they sex-sites? Spam sites? Even a quick glance in this area could tell you what kind of a dating site you are at.
5). What is the copyright date at the bottom? This could indicate the age of the site. If it is very young, this could help you determine if the site has worked out all the kinks (program bugs) and how many members they have accumulated.
6). Be wary of statements like "You are the 4697th member to join today." and "Search through millions of profiles." these statements are usually false. Major sites, which have been running for YEARS usually can support these statements. look for a "whos online" link. If you are the only person (1 guest online means JUST you are there) then you know these claims are false. A site with millions or even thousands of members will always have a bunch of people currently online. If you detect this in a dating site, it is better to leave than to take a chance with a dishonest site. This is just a short list of ideas to help keep you safe when dating online. Be leary, be safe. More information can be found at www.cupidsblackbook.com .
Leif Croonquist is a 34 year old writer from Portland, Oregon. He is a member of www.cupidsblackbook.com

A Nice Guys Guide to Dating Success

A Nice Guys Guide to Dating Success
Has it ever happened to you? Have you ever had the experience of liking a woman, being a perfect gentleman, and treating her like a queen, only to have her reject you in favor of someone else (possibly very handsome) who doesn't treat her right, or doesn't seem to care about her much at all? These kinds of men have been called "bad boys," "charm boys," or "players." When you are interested in women, do they tend to see you as a friend or "brother" rather than a romantic interest? Do women tell you you're "too nice"? If so, you are not alone. This article will give you, the nice guy, some tips on how to use charm-boy traits to your advantage, while retaining your nice-guy values.
Let's brainstorm for a minute. What makes charm boys or players attractive? They are fun, spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, and act as if they don't care what others think of them (also known as confidence). They follow their own rules and don't let others (including their dates) walk all over them. And they often look good.
So what can you do? You don't have to engage in risk-taking behaviors in order to succeed with women. Suggest some "safe" ideas on the spur of the moment; for example, "Let's go get some sushi/ice cream/a Margarita," or, "Let's go for a drive and see where we end up." If this is not the usual "you," you may enjoy your new-found spontaneity. You can be mysterious/unpredictable without violating your principles. Don't call her the day after getting her phone number or the day after a date. Give her time to wonder whether you'll call; keep her guessing. People often want what isn't easy to get, and women like a little challenge.
You're the man. Many women are looking for men who are confident and decisive, who can be relied on to get things done. On a date, take command but don't be pushy. Always have a Plan A and a Plan B, so you don't miss the concert just in case the restaurant loses your reservation and there's a 1-1/2-hour wait. But always be flexible, in case your date hates Chinese food, for example, or she just told you her favorite musical group is in town, tonight only. Low-cost dates conducive to getting to know each other include the zoo, a museum, or miniature golf. In addition to saving you money, these low-cost dates also minimize the feeling that you have to "spoil" her or "buy" her affection with an extravagant wining-and-dining evening. And if she likes you, she won't mind a "cheap" date; she just wants to be with you.
Keep it light and upbeat. Don't be needy or act nervous. You might be a bit anxious while on a date, but she doesn't need to know that. Keep things light and humorous, and pay attention to her. That in itself will help you take the focus off you and help you feel more confident. And be a gentleman (you're already good at this). For example, always offer to pick up the tab unless she insists on paying, open doors for her, etc. But don't overdo the gifts, lest you appear desperate.
Let her talk. This is where nice guys have an advantage. Most women like to communicate verbally and welcome the chance to be heard. (But make sure you listen; don't just let your mind wander.) She will be impressed if you remember details about things that are important to her, such as her pet's name or her favorite book. If you met her online, review her profile for questions you can ask her about her interests.
Neatness counts. Take another hint from the charm boys. You don't have to be a Brad Pitt look-alike, but make the most of what you have. Review your grooming, clothes, and accessories with an objective eye. If you want feedback, ask a friend--possibly a female friend--for honest input. Or tune into one of the new TV shows which focus on wardrobe/grooming tips for men.
Have a life (and a backbone). Just because you are dating a woman doesn't mean you drop everything else (including your own friends, hobbies, and interests). After all, relationships can come and go. Keep being yourself. You are not always at her beck and call. When you really don't want to do something (for example, if she wants you to cancel your ballgame or night out with your friends to go shoe shopping with her), it's okay to decline. Telling her no may be difficult for nice guys, but if she's worth keeping, she will respect you for this and value her time with you more. To soften the blow, you might offer her an alternative get-together. For example, "Sorry I can't make it on Saturday. How about I take you to that new play you've been wanting to see on Sunday instead?"
How does she rate? Remember: You have the right to evaluate her, not just the other way around. Does she deserve a second date? Is she relationship material (if that's what you're looking for)? Just because she's attractive/smart/classy doesn't necessarily mean she's right for you. Does she treat you well? Is she kind? Does she have decent self-esteem? Is she giving? If you're looking for a long-term relationship, can you see yourself still with her in 20 years, when some of the supermodel looks may have begun to fade?
The good news for nice guys is that as women get older, perhaps having survived a bad-boy heartbreak or two, they are more likely to appreciate nice guys. Make a list of your good points, the qualities you have to offer. Keep at it. And start believing that you are a catch (or at least act like it)!
For more information, visit the author's website http://www.therapy-conscious.com
Copyright 2004, Ann L. Palik
Ann L. Palik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles, California, specializing in helping single people create healthy relationships.

A Southern California Wedding in San Juan Capistrano

A Southern California Wedding in San Juan Capistrano
by Shari Hearn


Thinking of a Southern California destination wedding? There are certainly many cities and locations from which to choose: Los Angeles, San Diego, Santa Barbara, San Juan Capistrano. Wait, you don't know about San Juan Capistrano? Situated halfway between Los Angeles and San Diego, San Juan Capistrano is a perfect place to get married or elope. That is, if perfect to you means beautiful sunsets and breathtaking views of the Pacific Ocean.
San Juan Capistrano is a quaint, laid-back beach community loaded with history, boasting, among things, the oldest neighborhood in California, dating from the late 1700s to early 1800s, as well as the Mission San Juan Capistrano, founded more than 200 years ago.
But, what most couples come for are the beautiful beaches and sunsets in San Juan Capistrano and nearby Dana Point and San Clemente. Here is a sprinkling of the venues in San Juan Capistrano which will make your wedding memorable:
San Juan Capistrano Mission Inn Hotel
Conveniently located within walking distance of the Amtrak and Metrolink train depot, and adjacent to the historic Mission San Juan Capistrano, this charming 20-room boutique hotel is situated in an 80-year old Valencia orange grove in historic downtown San Juan Capistrano, California. With seven-layer bedding, imported English towels and French-milled soap, however, you know it's probably not a cheap venue for a wedding. Two-day, weekend event packages begin at $12,000 and include use of the entire inn, all 20 guest rooms and suites, swimming pool, parlor and gardens. The event fee also includes a continental breakfast served each morning from 8-9:30 am as well as Sherry and homemade sweets served each afternoon. The Mission Inn can be reached at 1-866-234-0249. The hotel does not allow children under the age of 12. Pets of all ages are welcome, however.
La Casa del Camino
La Casa del Camino has several settings to choose from, including indoor or outdoor wedding settings. You can choose from the Rooftop Garden, a sprawling, sun-drenched terrace with breathtaking ocean and coastal views, the Italianate Courtyard, which is lushly landscaped, the Cress Room, an intimate meeting/reception room off the Italianate Courtyard, and the Catalina Room, a rooftop meeting/reception room with views of the Pacific Ocean. You can reach La Casa del Camino by calling 888-367-5232.
The Franciscan Gardens
Another venue located in historic downtown San Juan Capistrano, the Franciscan Gardens is a very romantic wedding spot, with blooming rose trees, bubbling fountains, wedding arches, white columns and a unity candelabra.
The Tea House On Los Rios
Located in the Los Rios Historic District, the Tea House is a great spot if you're interested in a garden setting. Although the Tea House can accommodate a wedding for up to 200 guests, it's also a perfect place for a more intimate ceremony, making it a wonderful spot for a small destination wedding of close family and friends.
Anytime's a great time for a wedding in Orange County, although Southern California is often hit with "June Gloom" during the month of June when the sun is obscured by a thick marine layer. But, you might want to keep in mind some annual events in the area which can keep you and your wedding guests occupied, such as the Newport to Ensenada Yacht Race in April, the Shakespeare Festival in San Juan Capistrano during the summer months, the Pageant of the Masters in Laguna Beach from July to September, and the Tallships Festival in Dana Point in September. While visiting the area from December through April, do treat yourselves to a Whale Watching excursion.
About the Author
Shari Hearn is a writer and creator of a destination wedding website, where you can learn more about California weddings as well as casual beach wedding dress information.

Advice Dating Online

Advice Dating Online
by Sophia Brossard


For those that came for the instant download for advice dating online please go the download page 12 Simple Rules.
Everybody else please read the article below.
Online dating is more popular today then ever before. The net has become the singles bar of the 21st century. More and more people are using the net to find friendship, romance and future sexual partners.
If you are serious about dating online you should take a realistic approach to it. You should think of it as a process with certain defined goals set ahead of time. Your goal should be to meet your online contacts in person and precautions need to be taken.
It's no different than dating off line. If you barely know somebody you wouldn't give them your phone number or address after a 2 minute conversation. Only after you knew something about them and felt they could be trusted would you do such a thing.
The same rule applies with online dating. That's what chat rooms and e-mail is for. Get to know these contacts by asking personal questions. See if you have something in common. After you feel safe with them and you want to meet them agree to meet them at a public place.
A great place to meet with an online dating contact is at a coffee shop. There is very little pressure on both of you to impress each other. And having coffee or tea at a coffee shop allows you to talk openly and see if the chemistry is right. If the chemistry isn't there you can just walk away. If the chemistry is right then it is time to exchange phone numbers.
Meeting your online contact is both exciting and nerve racking and can also be disappointing. Even if you do exchange pictures and the conversations you have had online have seemed exciting the actual meeting of somebody new can be a disappointment. Sometimes the chemistry online is completely different offline.
By the same token the first meeting can be all you dreamed about. You have already had intimate conversation and gotten to know your online date before actually meeting. Most of the awkwardness is gone. Many people have fallen in love and married through contacting each other online.
In today's world finding friendship, love, romance and marriage can be as easy as typing.
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Why Online Dating is Becoming so Popular

Why Online Dating is Becoming so Popular
by Morgan Hamilton


In this day and age, online dating services have become so popular that it is the most widely used form of dating. It was determined in a study conducted by the Online Publishers Association and COM Score Networks that people in the U.S. alone spent over 450 million dollars on online dating and personals services in 2004. This study ranked dating through the Internet as the largest portion of paid content on the World-Wide-Web.
There are more than a thousand different dating sites available as of the beginning of 2006. Match.com, eHarmony, Yahoo Personals, and American Singles are some of the most popular sites.
There was initially a strong social stigma associated with forms of online dating that occurred since the beginning the Internet. Many people thought that those who dated online were strange, socially inept, or otherwise undesirable people that were resorting to an extreme measure to find dates.
However, online dating became more popular in the middle of the 1990s. This change culminated with a movie starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan called 'You've Got Mail' that was released in 1998. The stigma of dating on the web has all but disappeared in the preset day and age. It is now widely regarded as an intelligent, practical and effective way of meeting people for dates, relationships, and even marriage.
Online dating has more benefits as compared to meeting people by chance or at a bar, night club, or party. For instance, users of an online dating site can browse 'profiles' of potential dates prior to communicating with them. This offers an element of selectivity that bars and other traditional meeting places lack.
A person is also limited to the people present in the room in a live social setting. You may also be engaged in a conversation by someone you have no interest in. There is the ever-present fear of rejection in live scenarios. On the other hand, it is much easier to say hello to people you may have otherwise been too nervous to approach on the Internet. You can also choose from thousands of people from any location in the country.
People who criticize online dating often point to a number of dangers of this modern phenomenon. They cite examples where users were mislead, lied to, and sometimes kidnapped or assaulted by people they had met by way of the Internet. However, the dangers of dating on the Internet are common to all forms of dating.
About the Author
Morgan Hamilton offers expert advice and great tips regarding all aspects concerning Online Dating. Visit our site for more helpful information about Why Online Dating is a Good Idea and other similar topics.

How Does Online Dating For Christians Help

How Does Online Dating For Christians Help
by Jennifer Flanders


In today's busy and cosmopolitan life, being Christian is considered antiquated. Believing Christians are often not at your work place or in your neighborhood. It becomes difficult to meet good Christians for dating. Dating on line for a Christian single is a safe way to meet a soul mate with similar Christian values and interests. Christians are now using the Internet to widen their circle and meet for dating and eventually to find a Christian partner for life.
Just like other sites for couples, online dating for Christians, allows you to search through the thousands of posted profiles of believing Christians. Each interested person has an enormous database to choose from. The hobbies and interests and other points of interest are posted and you can pick and choose the profile that is of most interest to you. This form of safely meeting good Christians has become extremely efficient. Many who have used these services and have posted their profiles have made great friends and often these relationships have become serious and have led to romance and finally marriage.
Just as in other sites, an online Christian dating system provides a window to chat, exchange messages and photos and all the other Internet features available on the market. This is attractive to a Christian as you will be doing all the chatting and messaging etc. with a Christian who shares your faith and spirituality. In today's hectic life style and agnosticism, this online service puts you in touch with someone who shares your faith and beliefs. Someone you can go to church with.
Often regular dating means a discotheque with its kind of music or drinking at bars or getting together to drink at someone's place. Often a casual date may want heavy petting and sex as part of the date. Meeting a fellow Christian with similar interests and tastes could mean a quiet chat over tea or a nice meal in a comfortable environment. A real getting to know each other before serious physical contact. Physical contact has to be a follow up to the spiritual harmony not the other way around.
A Christian is first of all a believer in Christ and Christian dogma. He or she is a churchgoer, involved with church activities. For a Christian, it is most important that the person they choose to spend the rest of their life with should have the same interests, commitment and faith. Everything in their day to day life is based on Christian doctrine and centered around Christ.
Dating on line for Christians is the gateway that provides a safe meeting place for Christians to get together online and choose a person with similar interests. The most important of all being the shared interest in Christian teachings and values. A love for the church and its activities and above all to be able to live a Christian life in partnership with each other and be cemented by Christ in holy companionship and love.
About the Author
Jennifer Flanders is a staff writer at The Love Personals and is an occasional contributor to several other websites, including Wedding Digest.